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Phantom Hunger vs. Real Hunger

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Phantom Hunger vs. Real Hunger

"Stressed spelled backwards is desserts. Coincidence? I think not!" Author Unknown

There are 12 different types of emotional hunger, but you should know that the result is always the same, no matter the motivation: you feel truly hungry, and at the moment when the craving for food grips you, you can't tell that your hunger originates in your mind, not in your belly.

Your Two Stomachs
I like to think of it this way: you eat when you aren't really hungry because you have two stomachs — one real, the other a phantom. The hunger in your belly signals you when your system has a biological requirement for food. If that was the only signal of hunger you received, you'd be thin. It's the phantom stomach that causes the problems. The phantom stomach sends out a hunger signal when unruly emotions and unsolved personal agendas start pushing themselves into awareness. A short-circuit occurs, and you feel so hungry that you're compelled to eat.

I see the power of the phantom stomach demonstrated almost daily in my work with patients. The other day, a patient who had just finished breakfast told me in the middle of a difficult session that she suddenly felt extremely hungry. As soon as we started talking about her sexual problems with her husband, her appetite kicked in and she could hardly wait to get to McDonald's. Her phantom stomach was shouting, demanding action.

Phantom Hunger vs. Biological Hunger
Learn More Phantom hunger comes on quickly and knows what it wants, and it wants a lot of it. Biological hunger comes on gradually and you can satisfy it with relatively small amounts of food. Phantom hunger has such power that it drives you to go to almost any lengths to satisfy it.

I saw this fact demonstrated in Technicolor when I consulted at the Pritikin Institute in Santa Monica, California, where clients paid ten thousand dollars a month to take part in a controlled diet and exercise program. Although the tuition for the program far exceeded the cost of attending the most expensive private university in America, I frequently found participants sneaking out for hamburgers and French fries at a corner stand. These were all highly motivated people sent to Pritikin by their doctors because of serious, life-threatening health problems, but positive motivation clearly wasn't enough to help them resist phantom hunger. As you know, all dieting programs depend on positive motivation, ignoring the obvious: that there's such power in the emotional forces underlying the desire to binge or overeat that if you don't expose those forces and conquer them, you'll always be at their mercy — you'll always have weight problems.

How to End Phantom Hunger
If you want to stay on the lose-some-pounds-and-gain-them-back cycle for a lifetime, go on a conventional diet. But if you want to stay trim for the rest of your life, you need to stop focusing on what you should eat to lose weight, and instead ask why you overeat when you really aren't hungry.

Although diets can provide important nutritional information, we can see that diets don't and can't work if they don't address the real reason why you overeat. The program will help you to recognize the difference between emotional hunger and physical hunger, and will teach you how to deal with each of the emotions that trigger your phantom hunger so that you eat only when you need to, not when distress triggers your cravings.


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11 Comments In the order they were posted.

Fluffy said...

My first experience with dieting was when I was probably 8 or 9 years old. When I look back at pictures of myself then I think I was maybe between 10 and 20 lbs. overweight. After many subsequent diets, triumphs and failures of losing weight I am now according to my doctor about 100 lb. overweight and 59 years old. I often wonder if I had never dieted would I now be this much overweight?

Debbie said...

My weight problems did not start till after I was married and had my daughter. She is now 25 and I have tried all this time to loose the extra 50 pounds . Have lost at least 25. Have been trying to lose another 25 pounds for at least the last 5 years but have struggled by losing and then gaining . I have finally got to that place were I know I can finally lose the balance by trying harder to solve my issues. Know I'm an emotional eater and been reading your book. Just really need to talk to my self before jumping to food as my solution. I know with time and good habits I will finally get to my healthy weight.

Dee said...

I understand Fluffy's comment. I have been dieting since I was about 10. I'm now almost 60 and am 40 pounds overweight. I ignore my phycial hunger all the time, but the emotional eating is what keeps me overweight. I think dieting has created a weird relationship with food.

Maggie said...

I can identify with all the above comments. I find I reward myself for being good on a diet by eating extra or when I have family round by eating when they have gone. I started dieting when I was getting married and was just 4lbs overweight. From then on with having children, giving up smoking and of course dieting and now arthritis, I am I dont dnow probably 40lbs overweight.

Jayne said...

I never had a problem with my weight until 10 years ago. I was a skinny kid, and as a woman, I had a decent figure. 35-28-38. Now, it seems that a eat healthy for a couple of weeks, then feel driven to eat unhealthy foods until I have had enough and go back to healthy eating. I have gained over 100 lbs in the past 10 years. I have lost 40 or so pounds of that but have always gained it back in time. I want to get bariatric surgery so I won't be able to overeat anymore.

bekah said...

i want to lose 25 pounds i can lose it easily by just not eating but i get random cravings every now and then and i eat something and it makes me totally lose hope i need a super effective way to diet

Laurie said...

I was put on a school diet in 4th grade and have been on and off diets ever since. I was in sports a lot growing up and that helped but now that I'm 37 it is almost impossible for me. I continue to yo-yo. I am addicted to food and I don't know what to do.

Melissa said...

This type of hunger can also be caused by the inability to digest some foods. For example white refined flour is very hard to digest, it ferments in the stomach and causes air to build. This air makes us feel like we are hungry but we are just feeling the air. Reducing bad food will eventually relieve one of the phantom hunger. A bag of almonds or some sunflower seeds will curb the feeling and after a few weeks of no pasta, bread, or bad food I'll bet you 5 bucks it will subside.

jen said...

I'm 5'1, 43 years old, and weigh 200 pounds. I'm also scared - to death. I can't walk around like I used to, without being out of breath. That is something I actually try to hide. Outdoors I sweat faster and more profusely than others, which is impossible to hide. I'm thankful that people haven't held my weight against me, but I'm ready to change- for my health and for my 11-year-old who is "afraid" to get fat. She eats healthy and does karate and yoga, but I've had it with being a bad role model. I just wish I could get past the hunger. When I eat I leave the table almost as hungry as when I sat down! I don't eat a lot - just the wrong things, like a $1 fried chicken sandwich, a small fry, and a soda from a local fast food chain. Amazing how quickly that will wreak havoc on the body!

Chris said...

Fluffy, I hear you. But you might want to read Paul Mckenna's book 'I can make you thin'. A huge study during the mid 20th century had a group of overweight people purposely ration their food limited to no more than 1200 kcals a day. They lost weight, but after the study the people were so ravenous they not only put their weight back on, but put more weight on than they had before the study!!! Diets don't work my friend, the body just doesn't like it. What we really need to change is our 'mental programming' the way we think about food. Good luck Fluffy

Em said...

The book is fabulous...theoretically. However, I am having great trouble 'pausing' as I start emotional eating. Then once I'm off on a binge nothing can stop me! Does anyone have any ideas about how I can actually realize early on that that is what I am doing and ways to actually stop the urge to eat for long enough to be able to think about what I am feeling. At the moment I can't get past that point. Please help!